I need to set the scene for you.
It's a Saturday night. We've just finished dinner — dal chawal, nothing fancy. We're in bed, half-watching something on Netflix, and Rohan turns to me and says, very casually, like he's suggesting we try a new restaurant:
"So... I saw this thing online. It's like a couples vibrator? You wear it during sex. Apparently it's really good."
My face did something I couldn't control. A mix of confusion, amusement, and — I'll be honest — a little bit of are you serious right now?
"No," I said. "Absolutely not."
He laughed. Didn't push it. We went back to the show.
But here's the thing about a "no" that isn't really a no. It doesn't leave your head. For the next two weeks, every time we were together, I kept thinking about what he'd said. Not because I was against it. But because I didn't understand what it would even look like. How would it work? Would it be awkward? Would it make things weird between us?
If you've ever had a partner bring something up and your first instinct was to shut it down — not because you're closed-minded, but because you literally couldn't picture it — this story is for you.
Because I changed my mind. And I'm really, really glad I did.
Why I Said No (And Why Most Women Would Too)
Let me be clear: Rohan and I have a great relationship. Two years in, genuinely happy, good communication, no complaints in bed. This wasn't about fixing something broken. He wasn't unhappy. I wasn't bored.
That's actually what made me defensive. If things are good, why introduce something new? What if it makes things awkward? What if I hate it? What if it becomes a thing he expects every time?
I also had a very specific image in my head of what a "couples toy" looked like — and it wasn't good. I was imagining something bulky and complicated and embarrassing. Something that would kill the mood while we figured out where it goes.
Plus — and this is the honest part — there was a small voice that said: am I not enough? Is this because I'm not enough?
I know that sounds dramatic. But if you're a woman and your partner suggests bringing a product into bed, that thought crosses your mind. Even if you know it's irrational. Even if he's saying it with the most loving, excited, zero-pressure energy.
It took me two weeks, one honest conversation, and one very helpful internet rabbit hole to get past all of that.
PHOTOGRAPH: MYMUSE
The Conversation That Actually Helped
Two Saturdays later, I brought it up myself. We were on a walk in Cubbon Park — neutral territory, no pressure, broad daylight.
"That thing you mentioned," I said. "Tell me more. Like, how does it actually work?"
Rohan pulled up the product page on his phone. It was from MyMuse — same brand I'd seen friends post about for their lubricants and massage oils. The product was called Link+. An app-controlled couples vibrator shaped like a C.
He showed me how it works: one end goes inside, the other end sits outside, and it vibrates during sex so both people feel it. You control it through an app — MyMuse Sync — so you can adjust everything in real time without fumbling with buttons.
Two things clicked for me:
First, it was designed to be used together. Not something one person uses while the other watches. Both partners feel the vibration. That reframe — from "a toy for me" to "an experience for us" — was the thing that shifted my thinking.
Second, it was small. Like, genuinely small. The photos showed this slim, curved silicone thing that looked more like a sleek little gadget than whatever I'd been imagining. Not intimidating. Not complicated.
"Can I think about it?" I said.
"Obviously," he said.
I ordered it that night. ₹4,999. Discreet delivery, plain packaging, the whole thing. What surprised me was that I felt excited, not nervous. Like we'd decided to try a new trek together or book a trip somewhere we'd never been.
The First Time (Honestly)
I'm going to be honest because I think this is the part nobody writes about, and it's the part that actually matters.
The first time was fun. Not perfect. Fun.
We spent about ten minutes figuring out the app, adjusting the positioning, laughing at ourselves. There was a moment where we literally paused, looked at each other, and burst out laughing because neither of us could figure out which end was which.
That laughter? That was the best part of night one. Not the product itself — the fact that we were doing something new together and it felt playful, not performative. Nobody was trying to be sexy. We were just two people being curious and a little silly and completely comfortable with each other.
And then we figured it out. And the laughter turned into something else entirely.
The Link+ vibrates against both of you simultaneously. I wasn't prepared for how that would feel — not just the physical sensation, but the awareness that he was feeling it too, at the same time. It added this layer of connection that I genuinely don't know how to describe without sounding cheesy.
I'll try anyway: it felt like we'd been watching the same movie in two different rooms and suddenly sat down on the same couch.
Rohan's review, in his exact words: "Why did we wait two weeks for this?"
Fair point.
